Before I begin, let me start off by saying that I am a huge fan of SAFE CONSENSUAL SEX BETWEEN ADULTS. Please use these tips, tricks, and ideas responsibly.
I am all for doing new and exciting things in the bedroom, but I don’t always have the money to do the extravagant over the top ideas that I have. So I have to get creative. If you follow me on social media then you know that I often talk about a “black box” that I keep hidden in my bedroom. This “Black Box” is where I store all of my adult goodies. I didn’t go out and spend an arm and a leg to build my “Black Box”. I didn’t build my “Black Box” overnight. Most of the items that I started with in my “Black Box” are things that I already had in the house or they were purchased at the Dollar Store or Wal-Mart. Your “Black Box” should include things that you and your partner are into.
For those of you who do not have a “Black Box”, let me help you get a few ideas so you can build your own.
There are plenty of condoms to choose from. Flavored condoms, Ribbed for her pleasure, Colored condoms, Latex condoms, Lambskin condoms (although lambskin “feels” better, they are NOT as effective against STD’s or PREVENTING pregnancy), and Female condoms.
Black/Red Light Bulb:
You can find this at your local Wal-Mart between $2.00 and $3.00
I usually get the unscented ones from the Dollar Store.
You can use a scarf you already have on hand or you can find and use a sleep mask from the Dollar Store (found in the bath/beauty section).
You can also get this from your local Dollar Store if you don’t have any on hand.
I ordered a wig online once that I was not too fond of once I received it. So I wear it when I want to come to bed as “someone else”.
Like the many varieties of condoms, there are a variety of lubricants. Water-based, Warming, Flavored, Sensitive skin, and His & Her.
Gone are the days of the slow jam tapes and mixed cd’s. Now everyone has music on their iPods, phones & MP3 players. Make a playlist of the songs you want to play during your “adult extracurricular activities, or create a station on Pandora.
Ladies, let’s be honest, we all have that one pair of heels that we thought were super cute/sexy and we bought them not knowing that they hurt like hell. Now they are sitting in your closet collecting dust. These are your “Black Box” heels. You won’t be wearing them long, and if you are… you will be looking up at them (wink).
If you have some already, that’s great. If not then don’t feel as if you have to run out and buy some. Let’s use what you already have in the house. Do you have matching panties and bras, your lovers button-down shirt, a wife-beater and boy shorts, a t-shirt that comes down a bit past your waist to your upper thigh? Pair one of these with your heels and you will be good to go. If you do not have any of these items, then your heels and your smile will work wonders (wink).
We get perfume and body spray for every holiday and just because. Some we wear daily, some we don’t wear at all. The ones that you don’t wear at all can be your “Black Box” perfume. If you only wear that scent for your extra-curricular activities then every time your mate smells that scent they will think of you and be ready to “play”.
These are just a few ideas to help you get started. Come back next week and I will tell you about the “goodies” to get for your “Black Box”.